Is he ready?

My boyfriend and I have decided to move into together. It's a big step; no a HUGE step. Ihave been here before and I don't want the same outcome as last time, but I am not putting up any walls this time. I am letting things happen as they happen. He, my boyfriend, has never reallyhad a "real" girlfriend. I love him to death and I want to spend the rest of my life with him, but I am beginning to question if he really is ready for a serious relationship or if he even knows what it means to be in a serious relationship.

He has been spending more time with his friends lately than with me. I know that he does not want the relationship to end, I just think that hedoesn't understand. I want him to hang out with his friends because I want to hang out with mine. When he does hang out with his friends, though he tends to drink too much and back out on plans that him and I had or he "forgets". I told him that he has a girlfriend now and he can't really act the same way he did when he was single. He said that he understood, but he pretty much dod the same thing again this weekend. He has really been letting me down lately and I am not sure what is going on. I have tried talking with him, but it doesn't really seem like it is going anywhere and now I am getting the feeling that he just tellingme what I want to hear, or what he thinks I want to hear. I just want the truth. I don't want him to think that I am whining or being a "girl". I have been going through a lot of stress at work lately and I am trying not to take anything out on him. I just want him to be there for me like I am for him and I don't feel like he is.

I just find myself questioning whether or not us moving in together is a good idea. What's it going to be like when we do? Will it be good because we will get to spend more time together or will he simply find excuses to get out of the house and be with his friends? Am I going to be like one of those girls you see on TV who has cooked a fantastic dinner and is left sitting at the table by herself watching the candle wax drip onto the tablecloth and finishing off the bottle of wine herself? This move will make or break the relationship and I don't think that he understands that.